my mom is living in alabama at the moment and i live in texas. my sister has pretty much disowned her. she is a drug attict, she wants everyone to take care of her, and she is very manipulative, she is 56 yrs old. she makes up illnesses and gets doctors to prescribe her LARGE amounts of pills, and she smokes weed, right now she is on speed/meth too. i want to put her in a home, wether that be mental, old folks, or rehab i dont know. i think it would be good for everyone especially my mom. if i could do this they might be able to find out what is REALLY wrong with her, and get someone to rashon her the right medications, she would be taken care of, i would visit often, and it would benifit all of our mental health. she is incompitent to take care of herself. anyways how would i go about doing something like this? is it possible?how much would this cost? ect...? plz help! no rude answers. o.k. ive got the name and number of her doctor. what questions do i need to ask him??
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Answer 1 :
First you will need to get a lawyer to apply for you to be power of attorney over your mother. You will need to prove that she is incapable of caring for herself. If the judge signs the papers for you to be POA then you can get her into a home. Just look at all the options in living arrangments. Some are more expensive while others aren't. If she is declared unable to care for herself she may qualify for SSI which would pay for her living arrangements in a special home.
Answer 2 :
Maybe call the DA about Baker Acting her? Do you know the name of her doctor? You could call him.her?
Answer 3 :
I wouldn't ask the doctor anything..I would tell him she is faking, and if he continues to presribe her drugs for it, that you will report him...then, tell the police that she is abusing drugs..tell her that you are going to report her if she don't stop it..she is a druggy hunny..that is her problem...cut her off quick and if you have to go to the police, do it..it is for her benifit, in the end
Answer 4 :
When you talk to her doctor you need to let him know of her drug dependency. Doctors are less likely to prescribe addictive medications to someone that has a history of depency. A rehab is a good place to start to get help for your mother. Although if she is not willing to admit that she has a problem with drugs all the help in the world is not going to help her. She has to want to help herself. I am a recovering addict. I have been clean for 7 years. I can tell you from experience that not matter how much my family pleaded with me it did not matter until I decided myself to seek help. You may have to do like your sister and walk away from the situation. Your Mother cannot depend on you and your sister to fix her life for her, she has to fix it herself. All you can do is be there when and if she decides she is done and wants a better life.
Answer 5 :
She needs addition treatment. Tell her primary doctor your concerns. You need al-anon or something similar. Also go to NA/AA meetings to learn how addicts think and behave. It will also teach you how much to involve yourself in her care and how much to leave alone. Don't ruin your life and your family's life (spouse, kids) because your mother is on a self-destructive bent. If you are not careful, she will ruin your life and everyone in your home. Your sister may have disowned her because she has found it is better to hug a cactus than to interact with your mother as she is right now. You can't fix her if she does not want to be fixed. You can be sad for her condition, but don't believe for one minute that you are responsible. You are not guilty of anything. Sadness requires mourning. Guilt requires redress and amends. Don't try to help your mother out of guilt that you do not have.
Answer 6 :
You can't do this but you can encourage mom. Something tells me you and your sister have taken abuse from her. If mom cooperates and wants help it may be possible. I don't know anything about laws in the State of Alabama. Her doctor also needs to know about her dishonesty with him. Maybe her doctor needs specifically ask her about taking illegal drugs. I knew an individual who is now deceased. He behaved in an extremely meddling, manipulative and dramatical manner. He was dishonest with himself and always blamed others. He had relatives who would always say: "Oh that's just him." I am not diagnosing anyone but read what I attached. The book is in used book stores.
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