i just found out that my boyfriend has been doing meth every weekend. he has always had a problem with meth long before i got with him. but he told me he would get help. i thought he was doing ok, though he did it every once in a while i thought he was starting to try. i have already left him once for this and he said he quit and i really thought he did. i think he did for a while but he decided that since he had been doing good that it was ok for him do a little bit. he thinks doing a dime is not a big deal. i really need some advice. we have been together for a year and he just wont stop. i want him to go to rehab but i dont know how to talk him into going. i live in fort worth texas, so if anyone knows of a good place for him to go or if there is a way to have him taken by someone else where he has no choice, please tell me, im so lost.
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Answer 1 :
He needs an intervention like on tv. Interventions do work. Addicts cannot stop on their own they need help.
Answer 2 :
Okay, first of all, OF COURSE he's going to say he's going to quit. That's what they ALL say. They will tell anyone anything to get them off their back about it. He won't quit without real help. And if he won't go into a place to get help, then leave him. Because he will not quit no matter what you say. You've only been together for a year anyway. Don't get any further with him until you get this straightened out. It would be a terrible mistake. Search online for centers in your area or ask a doctor.
Answer 3 :
Interventions are normally a waste of time, believe me. A drug addict is not going to quit just because 20 of his closest friends and family are crying and asking him to go to rehab. 90% of the time they will give in and go just to shut people up, but they have NO intention of staying clean while they are out or in for that matter. But that is absolutely what he needs, an intervention by you and his parents. Unfortunately there is little chance for you to convince him to go clean, but if you are serious when you tell him that he will lose you if he does not try, that may be enough for him to try to change. Until courts get involved, there is no forcing someone into a rehab. Any rehab you sign him into, he will be completely free to sign himself out the moment you leave, and there is no refund. I would seriously suggest to take this consideration. First prepare yourself. When you have accepted this possibility, then sit down with him and tell him, "I love you, but I can not watch you kill yourself. You have to choose right now, me or the drugs." You have to be serious and be ready to leave them if they do not choose you. You can not change a druggie if they do not want to give up drugs. It is that simple. As long as he has the mind-set that a dime is not so bad, then he will not care if he takes any amount of meth. After all, it is only one more dime-piece. I have watched friends, families, and relationships fall apart because of one person's stubbornness to accept drugs for what they are. Poison. Unfortunately, from your boyfriend's view, it sounds like he has no one close to him taken by drugs, which is almost always the biggest wake-up call for users. Their friend's mortality can often show them their own. But more often the drugs convince them that it won't happen to them. I pray for you both to get through this, and do not under estimate what a sponsor or Narcotics Anonymous can do for someone.
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