Drug Rehab Texas

Friday, May 21, 2010

help, i want to contact my mama? longish but please help me

help, i want to contact my mama? longish but please help me?
okay where to start... i was bad kid. i did drugs for 14 years and my parents found out almost a year ago when i started getting arrested. when they sent me to rehab they gave custidy to my daddys parents. my mom and dad are still togeather. so when i got outta rehab i moved to texas from ohio to live with my grandparents theyre in there late 50s. so it sucks here. really. i have no friends and they wont let me make friends and i do online school and yeah:( and i slept with my contacts in and didnt change into my PJs. and nobody had told me i'd get in trouble for doing that, but you know what they did? no cell, no house phone. im not even allowed to call my mom and dad. no internet (they don't know my school computer goes to this website, but it blocks email so yeah) no contact with my bestfriends till i'm 18(who have never used drugs and live in illionis and theyve helped me with a lot and my parents told me i was only staying here for awhile and ive been off drugs for 5 1/2 months:( and i dont think theyll let me go back with my parents but its not fair) follow all other house rules (which gives me a bedtime and a wake up time. I'm 16.) and i snuck calling my dad and he said he was done with me!! and i want to try my mom and see if she'll still do something and i want her to take me home and i swear i'll follow there rules and i wont mess up again but I AM NOT STAYING HERE. but theres no way to call my mama. i could sneak it but i dont know here new number and i cant do email on this computer and they always have there laptops with them and never leave me home alone. so can you help me find a way to contact my mama? she has a myspace but i obviously cant get to that and i cant email her and yeah:( i know its bad because i guess i didn't know how great they were until i had to live with my grandparents:( and i'm not even allowed to cry here, they say i make myself cry to get them to feel bad for me and i don't!! what can i do to get ahold of my mama? i meant four years sorry! dude i said i ment fours years, I didn't see that i marked 14 years, i meant four.
Family - 5 Answers
People's Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
Answer 1 :
Let's do some math here. You are 16 now and you were doing drugs for 14 years? That means you started doing drugs when you were 2 years old. I find most of your story sad but I am having trouble believing you. Please get counseling.
Answer 2 :
You started doing drugs when you were 2?? hmmm... I think it's pretty terrible you aren't allowed contact with your mom, but I also think that she and your grandparents love you and they are only trying to help you. You are 16. It seems you really just want to move home to escape the strict rules set in order to ensure you don't get into trouble again. I would say suck it up for 2 more years and then you can do whatever you please. In the meantime, maybe try a little harder to gain some freedom. Do your homework, keep your room clean, take out your contacts, change your clothes, bathe, etc...basically act like a 16 year old instead of a 5 year old and maybe your grandparents will treat you like one. It sounds like you have really just gotten into a lot of trouble, betrayed their trust in the past, and are now proving to them that you havne;t changed by keeping this negative attitude. Kill them with kindness. Be OVERLY responsible. Once they get the point that you are making an effort to gain their trust back, maybe they will let you have a little more freedom. Good luck and I wish you all the best.
Answer 3 :
Call child protective services(CPS)and tell them you want to see your mother.You can get the CPS number by calling 411 and ask the operator to give you CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES phone number.You need to find a way to get to a phone.Ask a stranger if you have too.
Answer 4 :
I believe you need to ask them about going to counseling. You need someone to talk to. Also remember trust is a very hard thing to get back once you lose it. Sound like all of you need to go to couseling for you to vent and help you understand their chooses, and for them to learn to communicate fairly. I find sometimes I'm to strict on my 14 year old. I just don't want to feel like I'm failing her. sounds like more communication is needed go to a school counseler, and no matter what stay in school. What you make of school is what you make of life... Godd luck to you.
Answer 5 :
Have you pressed the wrong number on your age, because if you haven't then your a hopeless liar. Your 16, 16 minus 14 equals 2! You started doing drugs when you were two? Wow, that is precocious, where'd you score them? Pre-school? Look, I know that the mean age of drug users has lowered over the last few years, but that's ridiculous. So is expecting anyone to believe you. So tell me, are your pants actually on fire?

Friday, May 14, 2010

child support and custody

child support and custody
Me and my wife have 2 children together and i have a 4 year old son with another women and i just got back in his life after about 2 years because i moved away and traveled for my job and we are starting to see him now and I'm trying to get joint custody of him but i owe the mother back child support would they still look at me as a bad father if i was trying to get him back into my life and had a stable home and job ..and the mother is living off the government and she got arrested for heroin and child neglect with injury and the child was sexually abused while he was in foster care and they wouldn't like me take my child because he was in wv and i was in tx i would have had to quit my job and move back up here and never would have found a job here or a house in that amount of time so he stayed in foster care for 7 months while she was in rehab just getting a slap on the wrist..so what do you think my chances are of getting joint custody I'm trying to make everything rite nsf and for the record for those of you that think i left my x for a nother women because im just a dead beat your wrong because I didn't she was abusive to me mentaly and physicly and what was i suppost to do when all she ever did was fight with me infront of my child and leave me when he was 6 months old and went with a drug addict that i didn't know about untill she went to jail for narcotics so there for im not the bad one and i have had it ruff the past 2 years every job is dead end she went to court stating i made 2700 a month when i was in texas and i was only making 1200 a month and they exspected me to pay her 500 a month so i dont know how that works but yeah!
Marriage & Divorce - 2 Answers
People's Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
Answer 1 :
Oh Im sorry you are a wonderful man, getting better and better. you left her because she was abusive and you couldnt handle it but you expected your son to handle her. Right? And its ok if she goes off with a drug addict with your son, because you have had it rough. Im just wondering, Who do you think has had it more rough you or your son?
Answer 2 :
yea, your a real prince, you deserted that child and left him to deal with someone you couldn't deal with, if you had been visiting and oh seeing him regularly you would have known these things, yes they do let children go with parents across state lines buddy, they just have cps watch them in that state, THE REAL REASON THAT THEY DIDN'T LET YOU TAKE HIM TO TEXAS WAS BECAUSE YOU ABANDONED HIM YOU FOOL OH YOU POOR BABY YOU HAD IT ROUGH FOR THE LAST 2 YEARS HOW ROUGH DO YOU THINK HE HAD IT AND HE WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN IN FOSTER CARE AND BEEN MOLESTED IF YOU HAD BEEN A MAN AND STOOD UP FOR YOUR BOY, SO YOU ARE EVEN MORE TO BLAME THAN SHE IS WHY YOU ASK, BECAUSE YOU HAD ALL YOU WITS ABOUT YOU AND SHE WAS IN A CLOUD OF DRUGS, NOT AN EXCUSE FOR HER BUT A REASON, they wouldn't have believed her about the money if you cared enough to contact the court and just mail them a stupid pay stub, of course they still think of you as a bad father because you are and you will continue to be UNTIL YOU STOP WHINING, BLAMING OTHERS AND ACT LIKE A GROWN UP, THIS CHILD WOULD BE BETTER OFF WITHOUT YOU IN A GRANDPARENTS CARE OR SOMETHING UNTIL YOU GROW UP AND STOP BLAMING OTHERS FOR YOUR SHORTCOMINGS, DALE T

Friday, May 7, 2010

I'm at rope's end...what should I do

I'm at rope's end...what should I do?
My parents divorced when I was 8 years old. I lived with my father for a few years and I loved it. Then, I lived with my mother (and still am) and I've always hated it. While my father was unable to provide basic needs such as healthcare insurance and even sometimes electricity or water... he still treated me like a human being and loved me. While my mother was able to provide those things, she was not (most of the time) loving. I found out later she had been doing drugs for the past 10 years and she went to rehab. Before she went to rehab, she had tried to commit suicide -- more than once. She lost her nursing license due to her drug addiction. She's now in a job she hates married to someone she hates and she takes all her anger and frustration out on us kids. She is bipolar and verbally abusive, without mercy. Now I've come to the point where I've had enough of my mother's abuse. I want to live with my father, but I don't know what to do... Currently, he lives in GA for a month and a half. In about three weeks he will find out if he has to move to TX for his job. I am willing to leave my friends for this move (keep in mind I have one year of high school left). By moving to Texas, I will lose my Hope Scholarship in GA (if I even get it). However, if I move back to GA after my senior year of high school and live there for a year I will get it back. Anyways, the real reason I'm posting this question is out of desperation... My mother's side of the family is butchering my decision to live with my father. They're making him out to be the bad guy, when I know it's my mother who is the abusive one. Day after day I receive phone call upon phone call yelling at me or begging me or criticizing me. I feel like a shiny new toy that both my mother and father want. The arguments say I shouldn't live with my father because he may not be able to provide for me like in the past. The other side says I shouldn't live with my mother because she is abusive. My father says I should live with him because he will be able to provide for me... a maybe. His new job will be able to do so, but what if he doesn't get this job? Should I just trust him and go? My mother says I should live with her because I will be secured health insurance and a home, etc. Even though it is "hell" to live here... Honestly, I am so sick of everyone yelling at me and I cry for hours everyday because of this. I didn't mean to hurt anyone and I don't want to offend anyone and I don't know what's good for me anymore. I honestly believe that just by ending it all, just by running away or by committing suicide myself I can end my problems and anyone else having to deal with me. I don't know what to do, but right now all I want to do is leave or just kill myself. I'm so sick of all of this and I think I could just stop everyone else's worrying as well...What should I do? Please understand my situation. I'm at the rope's end...
Marriage & Divorce - 5 Answers
People's Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
Answer 1 :
Go to your father ... stop thinking about it , just go . You are torturing yourself . If it is that serious to you and you can't wait til you graduate high school ... then just leave .
Answer 2 :
Whatever you do--don't kill yourself. Things will get better. Stay with your mom, btw. She needs you more at this point.
Answer 3 :
It is so sad that you have to be worried about how you will be provided for and decide between that or abuse. Since you are of age, you can always get a part time job and assist financially if you feel you will truly be happier with your dad. However, your father can amend the child support order and require your mom to pay child support and health insurance. Just an idea...
Answer 4 :
Quit worrying about everyone else right now. Do what you feel is best, and you've wrote that it be your with your dad, so GO! Life is not about money, you can't take it with you when you die so why let it ruin your life. Your dad apparently loves you and u need him, just go.
Answer 5 :
Yes, go with your dad. Go where you will be happy. No one is ever sure how life will turn out, just go with what makes you happy. Everything else will fall into place.