My parents divorced when I was 8 years old. I lived with my father for a few years and I loved it. Then, I lived with my mother (and still am) and I've always hated it. While my father was unable to provide basic needs such as healthcare insurance and even sometimes electricity or water... he still treated me like a human being and loved me. While my mother was able to provide those things, she was not (most of the time) loving. I found out later she had been doing drugs for the past 10 years and she went to rehab. Before she went to rehab, she had tried to commit suicide -- more than once. She lost her nursing license due to her drug addiction. She's now in a job she hates married to someone she hates and she takes all her anger and frustration out on us kids. She is bipolar and verbally abusive, without mercy. Now I've come to the point where I've had enough of my mother's abuse. I want to live with my father, but I don't know what to do... Currently, he lives in GA for a month and a half. In about three weeks he will find out if he has to move to TX for his job. I am willing to leave my friends for this move (keep in mind I have one year of high school left). By moving to Texas, I will lose my Hope Scholarship in GA (if I even get it). However, if I move back to GA after my senior year of high school and live there for a year I will get it back. Anyways, the real reason I'm posting this question is out of desperation... My mother's side of the family is butchering my decision to live with my father. They're making him out to be the bad guy, when I know it's my mother who is the abusive one. Day after day I receive phone call upon phone call yelling at me or begging me or criticizing me. I feel like a shiny new toy that both my mother and father want. The arguments say I shouldn't live with my father because he may not be able to provide for me like in the past. The other side says I shouldn't live with my mother because she is abusive. My father says I should live with him because he will be able to provide for me... a maybe. His new job will be able to do so, but what if he doesn't get this job? Should I just trust him and go? My mother says I should live with her because I will be secured health insurance and a home, etc. Even though it is "hell" to live here... Honestly, I am so sick of everyone yelling at me and I cry for hours everyday because of this. I didn't mean to hurt anyone and I don't want to offend anyone and I don't know what's good for me anymore. I honestly believe that just by ending it all, just by running away or by committing suicide myself I can end my problems and anyone else having to deal with me. I don't know what to do, but right now all I want to do is leave or just kill myself. I'm so sick of all of this and I think I could just stop everyone else's worrying as well...What should I do? Please understand my situation. I'm at the rope's end...
Marriage & Divorce - 5 Answers
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Answer 1 :
Go to your father ... stop thinking about it , just go . You are torturing yourself . If it is that serious to you and you can't wait til you graduate high school ... then just leave .
Answer 2 :
Whatever you do--don't kill yourself. Things will get better. Stay with your mom, btw. She needs you more at this point.
Answer 3 :
It is so sad that you have to be worried about how you will be provided for and decide between that or abuse. Since you are of age, you can always get a part time job and assist financially if you feel you will truly be happier with your dad. However, your father can amend the child support order and require your mom to pay child support and health insurance. Just an idea...
Answer 4 :
Quit worrying about everyone else right now. Do what you feel is best, and you've wrote that it be your with your dad, so GO! Life is not about money, you can't take it with you when you die so why let it ruin your life. Your dad apparently loves you and u need him, just go.
Answer 5 :
Yes, go with your dad. Go where you will be happy. No one is ever sure how life will turn out, just go with what makes you happy. Everything else will fall into place.
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